Monday, October 3, 2011

Girl with Daddy Issues?

One of my room mates recently asked me what I meant when I talked about a girl with daddy issues.  To me I wanted to say, get off from under the rock!  But I digress its a term that isn't as commonly used as it once was.  To be frank, one of the things that makes my current living situation is that I am living with 3 new room mates that I had never met before.  I desperately needed a place short term.  So its interesting because none of these guys know anything about my personal life which is actually a good thing.  So to answer his question here we go:

There are a lot of things that define a girl with daddy issues.  The whole idea that the relationship between a girl and her father shaping her views of men later on in life is not as far fetched as you may think.  I am just some anonymous blogger, but famous psychologists have spent countless hours studying this phenomena.  The psychologist Carl Jung coined the term "The Electra Complex".  To be clear, I don't think that girls compete with their mother's for their father's sexual attention, but the relationship between fathers and daughters are actually important for the development of the daughter.  I feel that girls with "daddy issues" have the generally the following personalities.  (Note that all my generalizations like all generalizations are subject to the exception):

Sexually aggressive and forward
Excessively flirt
Clingy

I love girls with daddy issues.  There I said it.  I love it because I love to flirt excessively and at times its just fun.  I also love dating girls with daddy issues.  The whole excessively flirting thing can be an issue that can be discouraged enough away.  Trust me, especially if the cling factor is high, you can stop the excess flirting with the following:

Tell her that it bothers you and threaten to walk away.  Yeah its inherently emotionally manipulative but its the truth.  That shit bothers you and you shouldn't have to put up with it.  If you have her emotionally attached already this should usually do the trick.  If not you may have to flirt with someone in front of her.  Her clinginess and need for attention should spike into over drive at this point.  Mention that if she ever flirts with another guy again, she can expect you to reciprocate in kind with other women.  This usually will have her stopping that flirting business too.

The clinginess and sexually forwardness?  I view these as huge pluses.  Unless she is trying to fuck you in public then I don't see the problem with her being aggressive, if anything its hot.  If she is trying to fuck you in public then you have a skank problem.  Best advice of this post: don't date skanks.  There is a world of difference between girls with daddy issues and skanks.

The clinginess isn't so bad if you can control it.  The key is the set boundaries.  The clinginess usually manifests itself as her bargaining and pleading for you to spend more time with her.  Sometimes she will even bargain sex for you to stay.  The key is to only bargain if its really attractive for you to stay but generally never give in. Its important to keep your own friends or the set up will be all fucked up in the long run.  I actually wish I had more time to write more on this subject but a busy schedule and a non-monetized site means that my other work comes first.